Want to be a Life Coach? My Beautiful You Coaching Academy experience + affiliate offer

  With Julie Parker, CEO + Founder of Beautiful You Coaching Academy    Image: Fi Mims Photography

With Julie Parker, CEO + Founder of Beautiful You Coaching Academy

Image: Fi Mims Photography

It was when I was on maternity leave from my work as a counsellor that I was contemplating the next chapter in life.

I had been feeling that it was time for me to expand into something new, something creative, something uplifting…something else…I wasn’t sure. I was exploring all kinds of courses when I stumbled upon the Beautiful You Coaching Academy.  

“The Beautiful You Life Coaching Course is for people just like you – people who want to make a difference, see others grow and shine, work with people they love and feel connected to – and yes – create their own business and a life they love.” BYCA

The description of this course, its content and outcomes were so warm, welcoming, heart centred and creative. It was so easy to imagine myself as a Beautiful You trainee, it sounded just the thing for me at this time. But I didn’t sign up immediately. My head needed to do its thing: try and talk my heart out of it. So my head said things like: “What is a life coach anyway? Is this a reputable course? Will anyone actually take you seriously? Stick to university courses!” and so on and so on and so on….

I tried to think about doing another university degree, but I could not stop thinking about Beautiful You Coaching Academy. I returned again and again to their website. I read all about the amazing certified coaches who had come from such diverse and interesting backgrounds, residing all over the world, and who were now enjoying fulfilling and location independent entrepreneurial work. I read about the incredible CEO + Founder Julie Parker’s success and experience as a life and business coach, trainer and TEDX speaker with growing excitement. Her background in my very own field (Social Work) was a little something to please my questioning mind. Julie’s words were so warm and inspiring they leapt at me and dove straight into my own heart.

My heart won. I signed up. I remember vividly the day the postman delivered a large package containing my extensive 400+ page BYCA life coaching manual and 200 + page workbook, along with a beautiful set of inspiration cards for my desk all tied up with a pink ribbon and a lovely welcoming note. I knew then I was in for a pretty amazing ride!
 

  Inspiration Day, Melbourne.    Image: Fi Mims Photography.

Inspiration Day, Melbourne.

Image: Fi Mims Photography.

And what a ride it was. I very naively thought that being a six month course that it wouldn’t be all that challenging. I was wrong, in the very best way. Fourteen modules of topics, supported by comprehensive reading and worksheet exercises, incredible group calls, audio lectures and interviews with experts; opportunities to meet in person at the Inspiration Days; a closed Facebook group for ongoing support; opportunities to develop coaching skills with a peer buddy and receive feedback; coaching client resources and access to a private membership site to receive support and constructive feedback on all personal learning and development. Read here for more details about the course.

The Beautiful You Coaching Academy Life Coaching course is comprehensive and well-structured, and offers a great mix of coaching skill and business development teaching and learning. Beyond this, what really stands out to me is the exceptional personal support from Julie and the assistant trainers. This support is nurturing but don’t let that fool you – they will challenge you to be your very best, to bring everything you’ve got to your study and if you do this, the personal growth you stand to gain is DEEP. Unprecedented. Not only are the trainers wonderfully supportive, but the connections and friendships made with fellow trainees are incredible. The connection simply doesn’t end when the course does – the vibrant community continues! What an amazing foundation for an emerging life coach.

 Ubud, Bali with some of my amazing fellow coaching trainees on Graduation Day.   Image: Fi Mims Photography

Ubud, Bali with some of my amazing fellow coaching trainees on Graduation Day.

Image: Fi Mims Photography

I learned the specific skills and gained the courage I needed to establish my life coaching business. Today, as I write this, it is less than two months since I have graduated from BYCA. I have developed my brand that feels just right for me, established a website, engaged my ideal clients in coaching (both Pro- Bono and Paid), been interviewed as an expert on Wellness and Creativity, had my writing featured in an online journal, delivered a presentation and workshop, created an e-workbook  and become a Certified Coach. This blows my mind! Before I started this course, there is no way I would have believed all this would happen, and happen so soon!

  Graduating in Bali. Why wear a mortarboard when you can wear a flower or pink goddess crown?    Image: Fi Mims Photography

Graduating in Bali. Why wear a mortarboard when you can wear a flower or pink goddess crown?

Image: Fi Mims Photography

I could not recommend the Beautiful You Coaching Academy more highly and I am proud to be an affiliate for the Beautiful You Life Coaching Course. 

If you choose to sign up to the Beautiful You Coaching Course through my affiliate link, I offer you a bonus package of a FREE 3 month coaching series. This is worth $900 and counts toward your future certification as a Beautiful You Life Coach. I will also include a special gift just for you.  You will receive this bonus offer upon confirmation that you are still enrolled in the course following their refund period (approximately one month after starting the course).

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Want to know more? Send me an email through the form below, or directly to naomi(at)naomimorrow.com

"What will people think?" 6 tips to stop worrying and live more boldly.

So, I have a brand new business and website. I still can’t quite believe it’s real. It wasn’t so long ago now that I was feeling really stuck. I knew I wanted to change something, but I wasn’t sure what to change, where to begin or how to begin.

I felt stuck. I was toying with the idea of changing my work/career direction but then BAM! The thoughts came. Loud and Clear.

“You can’t change things now, you’re too old!”                     
“You can’t change things now, you’ve already changed too many times!”

 Pfft. It didn’t take me too long to blow those two off.

But then the next one shouted,

“YOU CAN’T CHANGE NOW, WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK?

Indeed. What will they think?

It can be such a paralysing question. It’s interesting, as I wasn’t worried about what my loved ones would say – as they are supportive of me and my choices…I was actually worrying about the invisible and unknown thoughts of random people who are not in my inner circle. Acquaintances. These thoughts would strike upon me at various times: when I considered a career change; when I was about to hit publish on a blog post, or even just as I was about to start writing. Not a word would pour out of me. I was censoring my words, ideas and opinions. Trying to play it safe, appeal to everyone and not offend or upset people. It was completely frustrating, kept me small and stuck. In other words, it kept me safe.

I wish I could say exactly what the moment was when I stopped caring and just went for it. I’m definitely not immune to having the ‘what will people think?’ thoughts now. But, I have noticed they crop up less and less.

Looking back, there were a few things that helped me move into action, stop worrying about what others think and simply do what I wanted to do. I’m sharing them in the hope you find them useful.

1.       Identify your needs

Find some quiet time and space to go within. Journal write, or create a vision board. Listen to some of your favourite quiet music. Consider where you are now in life. Where do you want to be? How do you want to feel? What do you want to be doing differently? What is missing that you can’t let go of? What is your heart calling for you to do, explore, release, chase, seek, be?

2.       Seek inspiration.

A book that really helped me was “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brenè Brown – it’s been a total game changer for me. Brenè urges us to let go of what others think by making a commitment to being our authentic self.

This is described as a daily practice where we are “cultivating the courage to be imperfect; to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made from strength and struggle; and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough.”

So be real, strong, gentle, kind and believe in yourself. Let that goodness grow inside of you and keep at it every day.

3.       Do a risk analysis

 Ask yourself. “What will the cost to me be if I don’t step up/make a change/do xyz?”

For me, I knew if I didn’t pursue my new path in coaching, publish my website or write from the heart – I would feel stifled. Stuck. Small. Not aligned with my values. Inauthentic. I decided I couldn’t risk to have those feelings grow bigger or spill into the rest of my life. Especially as a mother. I wanted to model living with courage, joy, clarity, peace and fulfillment to my children.

When I look up from my computer, I have a sign that reads “The cost of not following your heart is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.” It drives me.  

Brene Brown warns against the risk of hiding yourself and your gifts from the world:

“Our unexpressed ideas, opinions and contributions don’t just go away. They are likely to fester and eat away at our worthiness.”

Equally consider, what are the potential gains for you to make a change?

4.       Do something different – start small

Take frequent small risks. Say yes before you feel 100% ready. No-one is ever 100% ready! Where is the magic sign that says ‘yep, here you go. Ready!” Hint: There isn’t one. It’s an arbitrary measurement from your ego. I found that by saying yes to the little things, I gained momentum and confidence and found myself saying yes to even bigger things. Things that previously would have felt out of my league or too scary to contemplate. (But they were precisely the big things I deeply wanted to do!).

5.       Give yourself permission to feel

Talk about the fear with someone you trust. Journal write. Hide under a blanket with some chocolate if you must. Allow yourself to feel the fear. If you try to resist and keep it pushed down, it will just keep shouting at you, trying to make you get smaller and smaller and smaller.

It’s natural to feel fear, worry and doubt along the way. It’s a sign of you stretching and growing beyond your comfort zone. Even though fear may be present, you can still take action. It does not need to dictate to you what you can and can’t do – even though it will give it a red hot go!

6.       Seek support + accountability.

Finding a person who is going support you and challenge you to keep growing and extending yourself is invaluable. Perhaps you can team up with a friend and be each other’s cheerleader? Surround yourself with people who make you feel capable, confident and inspired. Don’t underestimate the power of spurring your friend on too!

Perhaps you might consider working with a coach to help you hone in on your goals, set actionable steps, inspire and motivate you and help bypass the blocks and fears that are trying to get in your way.

Are you contemplating making a change in your life? Are you tangled in concerns about what others might think?

Post a comment below, I’d love to hear from you.

Looking into the mirror.

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Photo Credit: Georgie James Photography

When you look into the mirror…

What do you see? What do you believe? What do you feel?

For many of us, the mirror is an uncomfortable place and we seek to avoid it. (I am not immune to this – I do love that my dance class has no mirrors, so in my mind I am Beyoncé).

The mirror is a place where our real authentic self is shown back to us, right now in the moment. But when we look, we often see the past and the future simultaneously, and a distorted view at that. When we look at the mirror, we also hear the story we hold about ourselves that is not always so forgiving.  It rises up to narrate to us a tale about our failings, our weaknesses, our fears and our flaws.

It is a challenge for us to be visible and fully present every day, and to accept ourselves as we are.

My wish for you …

Look into the mirror and wait. Breathe and wait. You may feel uncomfortable, irritated or silly. Keep breathing deeply.

Notice what you see. Notice what you believe. Notice what you feel.

Allow whatever comes up to be present. Keep breathing. Keep waiting. Keep looking.

Looking at yourself now: Notice your strength. Your courage. Your compassion. Your tenacity. Your hope. Your humour. Your faith. Your curiosity. Your adventurous spirit. Your purpose. Your passion.

That may have felt difficult, or it may have come easy. You may have noticed the shadows too. The shadows may show up as uncertainties, anxieties, doubts, irritations, rages, jealousies, pettiness, fears, hurts, pains, frustrations, selfishness, greed and vanity. Shadows are part of the human experience. They are inevitable. To be self-compassionate is to acknowledge both your light and shadow, and allow them space to co-exist.

Give yourself permission to be a learning, growing and imperfect human being. Release your grip on the pursuit of perfection, the relentless search for happiness – and create a generous safe space for light and shadow to co-exist.

Living a life that is full of juicy, interesting and rich experience necessitates jumping in wholeheartedly with a degree of openness and curiosity about what will meet you. Trying to deny, minimise or completely avoid the shadow side risks cutting yourself off from the full magnificence of life. Reflected light from a mirror is always more startlingly bright against the darkness.

© Naomi Morrow, 2016.

Finding your creativity.

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As a child, I loved being creative. Though I’m quite sure I didn’t refer to it as ‘being creative.’ I was simply having fun and trying things out. We, as little humans, create and play without (hopefully) paralysing analysis, self-consciousness or doubt just as we’ve barely begun.

I loved sketching, dancing, singing, writing stories and staging performances. I created a recipe book complete with a hand drawn character in the bottom right corner whose appearance changed when I flipped the pages really fast. That was a super cool trick! But I digress.

My self-confidence in my creative capacities was high then. Aged 11, I was fond of the funny Pam Ayres poems on our shelf. After entertaining my immediate family with my recitation of “I don’t want to go to school Mum” in our lounge room and then boldly announced that I wished to perform this in the local eisteddfod. I’d never had formal speech and drama lessons. In hindsight, I was pretty out of my depth with the competition. Mercifully, I was yet to hit the full force of painful adolescent self- consciousness and embarrassment. I simply adored expressing myself and having fun. Enjoying a creative life without the trappings of an internal voice judging my expressions as either good or bad.

I have since spent many years in studying and working in the fields of creativity, self-expression and the arts therapies. But that is different. It is not the same as making a true commitment to prioritising personal creativity for my own self. For process alone. Not product. Not achievement. Not outcome.

Recently, I was inspired listening to my amazing client reconnect with her personal creativity and visual art processes. From this, I felt a longing to sketch. It has been years since I consciously sat to sketch (excluding unintentional doodling whilst listening in meetings or lectures – it helps me process!)

I suggested that my young daughter and I sketch each other’s portrait simultaneously. She was keen. It was peaceful and relaxing – and a time for us to connect. Holding extended eye contact is a powerfully beautifully thing. I’m aware that as a parent, I have a wonderful responsibility to demonstrate and promote self-compassion in my creative endeavours. To not judge my work as good/bad, worthy/unworthy, professional/amateur or wrong/right. My daughter is listening. And so is my heart.

So as I sketch, I talk about how fun it is to have a go, to experiment, to play. I remind her and myself that there is no right way just as there is no wrong way in expressing yourself creatively. How fortunate are we to value and nurture our creativity together.

And today, we took a picnic rug under a shady tree in our yard. We brought out the oil pastels, pencils, paper and enthusiasm. This time, we were accompanied by a four year old at the beginning of his drawing journey and an almost two year old more keen on stomping on the pastels and creations.

Was it peaceful? Well, no. Relaxing? Not quite. Messy? Yes. There was a dog as well, I forgot to mention. Imperfect? Absolutely! Fun? You betcha.

And now, I can’t stop thinking about our next family art adventure, and my own renewal of commitment to living a richly creative life.

Maya Angelou said “You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, The more you have.”

Isn’t that a beautifully encouraging idea? Even if it’s been a long time, have a listen…there may be a whispering urging you to reconnect with your creative spirit. Give it a little nudge. Be curious and compassionate and just see what emerges for you.

©Naomi Morrow, 2016.

7 Tips for Magic Motivation

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Losing motivation. It happens to all of us. You know you need to do something. Finish something. But that pesky motivation, just when you need it…slips away.

When motivation disappears, its friends PROCRASTINATION + AVOIDANCE suddenly pop in for a visit, like two guests – uninvited.

The longer you find yourself hanging out with Procrastination and Avoidance – the worse you will feel. They think it’s a party and invite their rude mates, GUILT, SHAME and SELF-LOATHING.

Here’s my tips on helping motivation stick around:

1. Identify WHAT you need and want to do

Notice I haven’t used the word ‘SHOULD’ here. Should is icky. Should implies it is someone else’s goal or dream, not yours.

2. Consider WHY you need and want to do it

Ask: WHY is this important to me?

What does doing this or not doing this say about me? About my priorities? About my values? About my big vision for my life?

Is this task truly important to me? If not, can I outsource it? Change it? Dismiss it?

If it is, get really clear on this…connect the task to your big vision! Remind yourself.

Eg. You are avoiding doing a difficult university assignment. Perhaps you feel you don’t understand the question, or your inner critic is chattering away at you saying you aren’t clever enough to do it well.

Ask yourself: Why is it important to me to do my best?

Obviously, each person’s answer would be unique. But, let’s say, you want to do well on your assignment because it is an interesting topic, the subject is a prerequisite for passing your degree and you want to move into this career field feeling though you took up every opportunity to learn while you were able. This suggests that your values are about valuing opportunity, participating fully in life and being an active learner.

3. Consider how you want to feel when the task is complete

Relieved? Exhilirated? Excited? Proud? Capable? Confident? Optimistic? Energised?

Connecting to your preferred emotional state and imagine what it feel like at the end. Motivation likes emotion and likes a preview of it too! What will you be doing differently when you feel like this? What will you not be doing once you have this feeling? What will people notice about you when you are feeling like this?

4. Break it up into bite sized pieces

Make a list of every small action that comprises the whole task you want to achieve.

It can be overwhelming to consider the task as an unwieldy whole.

Small actions can be less daunting and can be done in shorter periods of time, but still generate progress toward your success.

Eg. That big assignment? Start by checking out what journal articles are required. Begin the reference list. Make a bullet note plan for your paragraphs and content.

5. Get accountable.

Tell a supportive person, a friend, relative or coach – your plans to achieve this task and the timeline in which you are working toward. Often we are more spurred on to complete tasks when someone else is aware and checking in with us about how we are going and feeling.

6. Don’t forget to speak nicely to yourself

Motivation likes a pep talk. Motivation hides when you grumble, moan and complain. Start telling yourself “I can do this, even if it feels difficult/boring/time-consuming. I can and I will” – ooh your motivation is going to lap up that sweet talk!

7. Reward yourself.

Don’t make yourself wait until the end to pat yourself on the back. Encourage yourself! Spent 30 minutes researching for your assignment? You started, well done! Enjoy a nice coffee or herbal tea before your next action. And when you’re all done? Really do something to celebrate pushing past the barriers to success!

What steps can you take toward boosting your own motivation today?

©Naomi Morrow, 2016.

The time is now.

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You’ve heard that expression: The time is now.  (It’s also a pretty awesome song from Moloko, which is now 16 years old, and not ‘now’).

Tonight my husband, myself and our three young children visited a gorgeous new beer hall and twilight market. It was a balmy Friday night and the end of a long week. A beer and relaxing conversation appealed. We got ourselves a cosy booth and the children bounced around energetically and exuberantly, as is their birthright. Our best intentions to chill out with them were thwarted. It was simply too exciting for them to sit still. We hurriedly finished our beers so we could get outside again so they could run and play at the market. Later, as we were leaving, admittedly with (by then) tired, hot and cranky children – we stopped to talk for a few moments with a table of energetic looking twenty somethings sans tired, hot and cranky children. Sans children.

It was unspoken between me and my husband. The wistfulness, even if only temporary, for the past. A time where we were free, and could linger for hours over a few beers, and great uninterrupted adult conversation. No nappies, spilt food, or tantrums.

But we have had our time. And now – what we have is now – is a new beautiful reality. A little noisy and chaotic, and certainly different, but it is our amazing life right now.

We need to lean in to the moment now and give it our full and wholehearted presence.

Lean too far back – we risk romanticising the past, remaining stuck, not fulfilling our potential and living a half-hearted life.

Lean too far forward, desperately trying to peer into the future and we might fall. Into an uncomfortable place of worry, anxiety, uncertain times…it is the unknown. The future should not be a reservoir for happiness.

Does this sound like you? “I’m not getting into my bathers and going swimming until I lose 10kgs” “I can’t possibly host new friends at my home until we extend the decking area” “Things will be great when all the kids are at school” “I will be happy when I get that promotion/ win lotto/ move to a new city”

Consider, what are you missing out on when you keep delaying what you could be doing right now? Connection? Happiness? Being your fabulous and authentic self? Achieving your amazing goals?

Time will continue to move forward. Things will change. We will grow, and our family will grow. Freedom will return in different ways. In ways we are yet to know, because it is the future. This is our time now.

So the challenge is this: lean in closely and notice the now with all of your senses…because it’s real.

It’s not easy this leaning in thing. I’ll be the first to put my hand up and say that at times, the present moment is the last place I want to be and I’ll find myself wishing away a difficult moment or hour or afternoon. But it’s the resistance and the struggle against the reality that often causes the most distress.

And maybe next time I write, I will lean in to the now and reference a song that is not from 16 years ago.

©Naomi Morrow, 2016.

Is your story calling the shots in life?

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I’ve been carrying a story about myself for a very long time. It’s called: “I hate exercise, it’s boring and I suck at it.”

This story started early on in life, where school reports highlighted my lack of skill and interest in Physical Education (PE) and team sports. I dreaded cross country days, where I would be one of the last ‘runners’ at the back. I felt really embarrassed by this. At high school, I just could not co-ordinate myself to hit the damn shuttlecock in Badminton.  I recall being so thrilled that the PE teacher at the time was also a musician, so he graciously looked the other way when I excused myself from PE for yet another saxophone lesson. It’s not as if I am not competitive, I am ridiculously so when it comes to trivia, Scrabble and quizzes but sport? Not me. There were exceptions to the story, like the time I won a footy kicking competition in Grade 6 or was commended for my flexibility in the sit-and-reach.

But as it goes with unhelpful stories, we have our blinkers on, only noticing the negative events and experiences that serve as proof.

So I tuned in to this story about exercise being difficult and boring. I shaped my identity and activities around what I was good at and what I enjoyed (music, reading and being creative). This was understandable. It gave a sense of joy, meaning and purpose to life. But in this process I not only sought out what I enjoyed, I actively shunned and rejected other things. I sat on the sidelines at high school swimming sports days listening to Nirvana on my headphones and wishing I was somewhere else. I watched as my university friends played netball and I joked that it was ‘boring’ and ‘lame'. I was deeply suspicious of anyone training to be a PE teacher, laughing that we would never have anything in common and couldn’t possibly be friends. It’s quite a safe place to be, living half-heartedly to avoid risk and shame. In hindsight, there was an awful lot I was missing out on.

But over the years, my story started to change. I began to notice that I enjoyed individual exercise, like walking, yoga, dancing and aerobics. If there was really amazing music then I probably forgot that I was exercising and forgot to be bored. When I was struggling with the demands of daily life with a toddler and newborn baby, a wonderful psychologist recommended I join a gym. I did. Sometimes I would go four or five times a week. I became a ‘gym bunny’ and I loved it. I felt incredible: capable, strong and fit. I wasn’t bored and it wasn’t difficult.  A truckload of endorphins were now buzzing happily about in my brain. Great self-care became important to me, and exercise was a significant part of that. When the Body Attack instructor announced that I had ‘smashed it’ at the end of a gruelling class, I was ecstatic. I had changed my story.

Stories are powerful, and they can help us make sense of ourselves, others and our world. But I’d love us all to consider – is it time for us to change the story? Or ditch it entirely? Maybe you can give your story a new title? You have the go ahead from me!

Is there a story you are working to change or have changed? I’d love you to be brave and share!

©Naomi Morrow, 2016.

For the Love of Things.

My four old keeps asking me, “When are we going to swap our house?” Now, last time I checked, we are not members of a fancy house swap arrangement whereby some unsuspecting family trades their spacious Tuscan villa for our warm and cosy home. It took me awhile to work out what he was really getting at.

He wants a house with new/different stuff in it. And by stuff, he means toys.

Whilst I admire his big picture vision and quirky veiled question, it’s not something that aligns well with me. I have cupboards. Full ones. Doors that get slightly stuck because the contents are spilling out (and that’s not all toys, it’s just the overflow of life).

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I daydream about being a minimalist. But then I get shocked back into reality.

I’m a sentimentalist. I love my special things. Artefacts from long gone grandparents, the dress I wore to my 21st birthday, my deflated teddy bear from the 1980s, a mammoth box full of Baby Sitter Club Books, assignments from university subjects long ago…and the in-flight menu from our honeymoon. In 2006. (Ok, I was horrified at that last one. Straight in the bin. I don’t scrapbook. And I don’t recall if I had the Penang Curry or Pad Thai). But true mementos and trinkets, worthy and special, are tactile and real and can connect us to memories, loved ones and experiences.

It doesn’t seem to be flavour of the month. No- one is writing bestselling non-fiction about the art of collecting are they? I’m aware that people may suggest I will feel lighter when I ‘detach’ from stuff. I know from experience that this method is successful. I feel lighter every time I ‘detach’ from a preschool inspired milk carton sculpture. The detachment process is necessarily delicate. One must give due admiration to the artist’s work and then seek full consent to ‘detach.’ Often artists are inclined to change their minds, in which case, if the recycling truck has already gone, you’re in trouble.

So for now, much to Master Four's chagrin, we are not ‘swapping house.’ It’s cosy and comfortable here, surrounded by the things that remind us of where we have come from, who has loved and loves us, and how we want to feel every day (connected, loved, inspired and just a little flustered when we open the cupboards).

©Naomi Morrow, 2015.

Time for Imperfection

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So here I am. Embarking on another chapter in my career and life. Training to become a heart centred life coach with the Beautiful You Coaching Academy. The last time I undertook extensive formal study was in 2007 when I completed my Honours Thesis in Social Work. I had no kids then. Just a dog and a husband, and seemingly all-the-time-in-the-world to hone beautifully crafted and thoughtful interpretations of my data. Now I have three children under six, and still the same dog and husband. I no longer have all-the-time-in-the-world.

This means a big shake up of how I do things. Before, I really dug in deep to my identity as a perfectionist, and would often delay or avoid doing tasks unless I was certain it would be top notch. I’ve been toying with the idea of writing a blog for some time…but delayed and avoided, because I listened to these unhelpful internal messages:

“What do you want to do that for?” “You don’t have time for this!” “What are you going to write about?” “What if people don’t read it?” “What if they DO read it?”

And you know what? I started to get annoyed at these messages. I really wanted to write!

A whole host of positive and helpful influences started to filter in a little more, including:

-The uplifting and inspiring teaching and learning from The Beautiful You Coaching Academy, led by the amazing Julie Parker --- has really motivated me to start being brave and really living what I have always believed in (for other people)…and now I’m doing it for myself;

- Professor Brené Brown's inspiring research about how when we dare to have the courage to show our vulnerability, we can live our most meaningful and authentic lives;

And that which did not seem initially positive or helpful – the devastating news about a family member’s ill health…gave me the jolt to realise that

no-one has all-the-time-in-the-world.

This morning I finished reading “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown.

I then wrote this, my very first blog post, between nappy changes, helping to dislodge a wobbly tooth, grocery shopping, cuddles, nap time and housework.  I made a commitment to embracing imperfection and just did it.

© Naomi Morrow. 2015.