Your creativity is waiting for you.

This post first appeared online at Happy Mama

My fingers move over the piano keys, more awkwardly than before. I remember the notes but I can tell I have lost skill. It has been so long since I identified as a musician, as a creative. I wondered if it was possible to reclaim that space. I missed it. Suddenly, a little one plonked alongside me, her small sticky hands pounding the keys “Mama, I play too! Old MacDonald had a…farm!”

Strumming the guitar, singing a song I used to know…a little one climbs up on the bed, “MOOSIC!” she chortles and clamps her hand over the fretboard. Suddenly my song doesn’t sound like the one I used to know.

Turning up the Saturday morning playlist loud (Boy and Bear, it goes well with coffee), feeling excited at the promise of a weekend – belting out “Lordy May” when suddenly Bieber is urging “Let Me Love You.” The little ones laugh in conspiracy – they know how to operate Spotify now.

Sketching a floral design with an inky black pen, feeling expressive and satisfied. I notice my shoulders drop and I breathe a little more deeply and slowly. It’s quiet here at the table. Suddenly, a small voice calls “Hey Mum! Can you draw a Ninja Turtle eating a pizza, but with no pineapple on it?”

Painting an abstract canvas at the kitchen table. I have just enrolled in an online painting course. It’s 10pm and the little ones are asleep. I spread out all the paints and brushes. I listen to music on my headphones as I paint. I feel free and creative. Soon though, I tire and need to pack away the materials before another huge day of mothering. I am impatient and don’t let the glaze dry in time. The painting smudges and my careful marks disappear under the wet glaze.

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Claiming my creative space and nurturing my creative spirit, especially as a mother, feels essential but at times, barely possible.

When I look at how I would traditionally claim space for creative expression – it’s centred on a pre-motherhood life. A life that is spacious, rested and independent.

I’ve learned that I can no longer use my old references and definitions of what a creative life means to me – because now, as a Mama of three little ones – it simply does not fit in the same way.

But, when I am standing in truth, and honouring the true sacredness of mothering and what it means to me – then I can fully access a creative wisdom and knowledge that was not known to me before.

Georgie James Photography

Georgie James Photography

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Walking home from the park, we slow to halt. Reaching down, we notice the smooth texture of discarded bark sheafs. They will make the perfect canvases for our watercolours. We throw as much as we can into the bottom of the pram. This is noticing.

Zooming around in the art gallery, they stop and giggle at the nude paintings. I chuckle along. This is art appreciation.

Lining up the chairs for a home grown dance and comedy show in the backyard. This is theatre.

Colouring in and out of the lines.  This is freedom.

Turning our sketching ‘mistakes’ into something new. This is resilience.

Singing to Ed Sheeran in the car on the way to school. This is harmony.

Hanging our projects on the wall. This is pride.

Ninja kicking from the lounge room sofa. This is imagination.

Dancing in the kitchen while Dad makes pancakes.  This is fun.

Gazing at the sky and seeing elephants in the clouds. This is peaceful.

Playing the wrong note at the piano. This is process.

Guessing the instruments in the orchestral piece. This is listening.

Scribbling, then colouring in the gaps. This is creating beauty amidst chaos.

Sharing our favourite songs. This is understanding.

Describing the events from our days. This is storytelling.

Crafting a thank you card. This is connection.

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Georgie James Photography 

Georgie James Photography 

As a mama, I see the gift and responsibility that is bestowed to me. I can choose to role model a creative life to my little ones. They are watching me.

I let them see me daydream. I let them see me choose creative pursuits, to wonder at beauty in nature, in an art gallery, in their own creations and projects. I let them see me try. I let them see me trust the process and detach from the outcome.

But I know it is they who are teaching me. They are my creative role models.

Together we learn, that creativity is our birth right. We learn that creativity can be expressed freely and without judgement. We learn that it is a portal to deeper connections, within ourselves, our relationships and our communities. We learn that creativity offers us a sense of magic, wonder and mystery – in both the sacred and ordinary. We learn that creativity means taking risks, being brave and innovative in thought, imagination and action. We learn that being immersed in creative expression enters us into a state of ‘flow’ which relaxes us, reduces anxiety, boosts self-esteem and happiness.

Creativity is not waiting for us, in our rare moments of mama solitude.

It is within us, and our children. Shared together, creativity is ignited to be both real and magical.

©Naomi Morrow, 2017.

7 Tips for Magic Motivation

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Losing motivation. It happens to all of us. You know you need to do something. Finish something. But that pesky motivation, just when you need it…slips away.

When motivation disappears, its friends PROCRASTINATION + AVOIDANCE suddenly pop in for a visit, like two guests – uninvited.

The longer you find yourself hanging out with Procrastination and Avoidance – the worse you will feel. They think it’s a party and invite their rude mates, GUILT, SHAME and SELF-LOATHING.

Here’s my tips on helping motivation stick around:

1. Identify WHAT you need and want to do

Notice I haven’t used the word ‘SHOULD’ here. Should is icky. Should implies it is someone else’s goal or dream, not yours.

2. Consider WHY you need and want to do it

Ask: WHY is this important to me?

What does doing this or not doing this say about me? About my priorities? About my values? About my big vision for my life?

Is this task truly important to me? If not, can I outsource it? Change it? Dismiss it?

If it is, get really clear on this…connect the task to your big vision! Remind yourself.

Eg. You are avoiding doing a difficult university assignment. Perhaps you feel you don’t understand the question, or your inner critic is chattering away at you saying you aren’t clever enough to do it well.

Ask yourself: Why is it important to me to do my best?

Obviously, each person’s answer would be unique. But, let’s say, you want to do well on your assignment because it is an interesting topic, the subject is a prerequisite for passing your degree and you want to move into this career field feeling though you took up every opportunity to learn while you were able. This suggests that your values are about valuing opportunity, participating fully in life and being an active learner.

3. Consider how you want to feel when the task is complete

Relieved? Exhilirated? Excited? Proud? Capable? Confident? Optimistic? Energised?

Connecting to your preferred emotional state and imagine what it feel like at the end. Motivation likes emotion and likes a preview of it too! What will you be doing differently when you feel like this? What will you not be doing once you have this feeling? What will people notice about you when you are feeling like this?

4. Break it up into bite sized pieces

Make a list of every small action that comprises the whole task you want to achieve.

It can be overwhelming to consider the task as an unwieldy whole.

Small actions can be less daunting and can be done in shorter periods of time, but still generate progress toward your success.

Eg. That big assignment? Start by checking out what journal articles are required. Begin the reference list. Make a bullet note plan for your paragraphs and content.

5. Get accountable.

Tell a supportive person, a friend, relative or coach – your plans to achieve this task and the timeline in which you are working toward. Often we are more spurred on to complete tasks when someone else is aware and checking in with us about how we are going and feeling.

6. Don’t forget to speak nicely to yourself

Motivation likes a pep talk. Motivation hides when you grumble, moan and complain. Start telling yourself “I can do this, even if it feels difficult/boring/time-consuming. I can and I will” – ooh your motivation is going to lap up that sweet talk!

7. Reward yourself.

Don’t make yourself wait until the end to pat yourself on the back. Encourage yourself! Spent 30 minutes researching for your assignment? You started, well done! Enjoy a nice coffee or herbal tea before your next action. And when you’re all done? Really do something to celebrate pushing past the barriers to success!

What steps can you take toward boosting your own motivation today?

©Naomi Morrow, 2016.